Being Tested - My Son Decides Not To Listen

It is hard when you are dealing with a child who does not want to listen. I think everyone has been there. I'm also sure it is hard on teachers and others as well. As a homeschooling parent, I've found that line terribly blurred but it has given me into some new insight on why my son had fallen behind in the public education system.

Knowing that he has some special limitations, he apparently has used this to try to circumvent doing his work.

At first, I thought he really couldn't do it. We were working on math, but he loves math and he always does it so well. This was the first time he dug in his heels and started answering everything wrong. I couldn't understand it. Did I explain it wrong? I asked myself so many questions. Was it the autism affecting him? But this was a first... and we are still in our first week of homeschooling.

We struggled through and went to another lesson. And then another. A snail's pace marked our former breeze.

Is this something his public school teachers went through? Or was I inadequate to be doing this? My confidence was getting shaky, and then he did an obvious and glaring 'mistake'. No, he's not THAT foolish I said to myself.

He was dragging the lesson on because he knew that in public at a certain point they would stop. But I'm not public, and I'm not going to let him stop. After I explained that he would lose his privileges tomorrow if he did not start doing what he was supposed to in our home school class and that I was not going to let him skip the lesson, he suddenly perked up and started doing what he was suppose to do.

Sneaky. Testy! And... how very smart of him. T_T

I think I passed his test tonight.

Crossposted to Kid Cultivators

(we just joined them, they look so awesome!)

First Week!

We've been busy this first week. Although, I need to help my grandmother work on her self-introductions. I'll tell you why in just a moment.

Anyways, I've already seen an improvement with Gabe on his schooling. He seems to be retaining better and has become more descriptive of the things he does. We've had fun this first week of home schooling and he has admitted that he likes his home school much, much more than regular school .

He also went on his home school excursion this week to the Atlanta History Museum. He did a great job on describing what he did and learned to me that evening. They did a lot of tours, classes, and the whatnot. The only thing that disappointed me was that no one really reached out to them. Maybe it is simply my nature, but any group trip I've been on that has contained strangers, I have always tried to be welcoming and say hi and help along. It could be my grandmother is too shy. I don't know, I wish I had been there and not at work. I know I am much more outgoing, so that could be an issue for her to conquer. Gabe was sad a little that he didn't make new friends, but he loved the adventure.

Botanical Gardens are tomorrow. Maybe they'll make new friends then.

However, in terms of his standard subjects, he's doing great and I'm very excited on his progress. I do need to find a 'national level' test to administer to him before the year is out. Ah well. One day at a time.

On Homesteading and Elitism

There is a rather diverse bunch of folks and such out there who home school. However, what really got to me the other day was hearing from another single parent. I think she was just looking for someone to do for her, I'm not sure, but the moment the A-word (that's Autism) came out of my mouth --- everything changed.

Suddenly, my son was unsuitable and that the children would not get along.

She never bothered to ask me what high-functioning meant. I can promise you that my son's technical skills will probably make most children weep. His mathematics are spot on. It is only his language skills that are lacking and that is in composition.

I think that is what hurt me the most because SHE pursued me to be her 'friend' and then when we talk, my son's little quirk is this elephant in the room.

Maybe we are made of kinder stuff in this household, but I'm sure we cannot be alone when we are open to anyone of any race, religion, creed, and ability.

Sigh... she even made it sound like I didn't belong on the mailing list I am on. I want to cuss her out, post her email, and do all sorts of bad things, but that is not in me. I won't even give her name except in this anonymous rant of sorts.

I wonder if this is a normal occurrence?

Parents have a right to choose association, but you are not helping me by pretending you don't mind but insist that the children won't get along. You're a bigot then. In fact, I'll be more inclined to think ill of you for being a liar as well. Be honest if you do not like the ways another family has and just say it. "I do not feel we should continue because I don't like/agree/am prejudiced ... insert whatever."

Don't be all wishy-washy acting. Grow a spine at least if you are going to be prejudiced and bigoted. I'll have more respect if you are strong in your beliefs than if you are washy.

Anyways, anyone else out there have this happen to them? Doesn't have to be autism, could be religion, race, etc.

Free Curriculum, Printables, and Lesson Sites

Free stuff rules, right? Especially when going at it on a budget and having to invest some dollars in curriculum supplies has kicked us in the groin on the budgeting (at least the monthly payment plan is the same as his former after-school program...)

Here are some links to free curriculum sites or worksheets or what-have-you.

CyberSmart!

- K-12 curriculum that teaches kids about Internet safety from all topic points.

Handwriting For Kids

- Ton of worksheets for handwriting and cursive practice. Plus some math and grammar

Georgia Stories for Homeschoolers

- Here is the method to request access to this 8th grade resource about Georgia history

Library of Congress: Teacher Resources

- Lots of US history information here that includes lesson plans, print-outs, and you name it

MERLOT

- Amazingly large set of free information for various topics. I even found new Japanese pages to study.

Homeschool Views Printables

- Cute and helpful printables and the rest of the site is pretty cool too.

Local School Directory Free Lesson Plans

- Outlines, and some are more thorough, free lesson plans

Busy Teacher's Cafe

- Printables and Themes for planning lessons

Making Music Fun

- Great selection of musically oriented free homeschooling resources

Lakeshore Learning Teachers' Corner

- Changes monthly with free printables and lesson plans

... and many more. I'll keep updating this.

A Few Reasons Why

There isn't much to this posting other than facts and figures. But this might give you an idea why I made this decision for our family a bit more clearer.

Here are some reasons why we are homeschooling:

• A stronger chance at academic performance
• Keep our households beliefs
• Social interactions in public school have poor spots
• Greater opportunity to learn a large breadth of subjects
• No more 'homework' since it is all schoolwork
• The ability to take a break if we need to

Here are some interesting facts about Georgia's academic performance:

• The state of Georgia has poor SAT scores, ranking 47th place overall, per Associated Content on July 12, 2010.
• According to the Census Educational Attainment data from 2007, Georgia ranked 40th in those graduating from high school or more.
• Further in that data, Georgia ranked 21st for attaining a Bachelor's degree or more, and 23rd in having an advanced degree or more. This isn't too bad, but we could do better.
• According to NCES, the statistics also show Georgia at 40th rank as well. There were some other higher rankings, like the usual ranks for higher education versus ranking for having a high school diploma, but the overall is 40th.
• According to Schooldigger, which uses data from the statewide testing and other valid sources, Gabe's old school currently ranks 267 out of all schools in Georgia. Not too bad, relatively, but consider that in the last year it dropped 133 ranks.

Gabe's Last Day at Public School

According to kiddo, it went fairly well. However, I am perturbed that he did not end up with his school supplies. We only sent them a couple weeks ago. I guess this is my 'donation' to the public school system of Georgia.

Some might think I'm being a bit annoying by mentioning this, but when the school year started, the supply sheet said that he was going to get to keep and use his own supplies so I bought a few extra special ones just for him. He doesn't have them anymore because apparently the teacher decided to group them up anyways. He's hurt. I'm hurt. But then this is just one more example why it was best to cut our losses now and leave the system. More on that in the next post.

However, there were bright points to the day outside of one teacher. Gabe's friends and friendly authority figures still want him to visit. And we will. I was especially touched by some of the events that he will still be allowed to take part in (as long as I or Nana are there of course). Those parts of the public school system I do not regret and I know I will miss.

Also, we are receiving unique opportunities to inform about homeschooling to others. I have to explain we are just starting, but people say I've done a good deal of research. It makes me blush.

An up-and-down sort of day, but it was a good day overall. We also got the chance to discuss my expectations for Gabe's behavior as a homeschooling student and as a household, we are well on our way. By Thursday, we'll have our curriculum delivered and I'll probably give him another week before starting so we have a chance to touch it all. But of course, if he wants to get started sooner, we will.

Our Journey Begins

Or, the really long About Us post

This has been an interesting week! As a family, the decision was made to home school my son. Papers have been filed. Actions taken. Wow!

Only weird people do that, right?

No... You'd be surprised how many people you might know that home school their children, but this blog isn't about them. This is about my and my son's journey into homeschooling.

Since you are new here, and this is a new blog, I suppose an introduction is in order. We'll start with the most interesting family member. My son.

Gabe is 8 years old and a third-grader this year. He loves super heroes and all the in-franchises like Harry Potter and Transformers. If it was targeted to his age range, more than likely he is into it. Gabe is a pop-culture addict when not running around and drawing his mini-comics. He's also incredibly kind and sweet. However, there is one thing that sets him apart from most of his classmates. Gabe has autism.

For those who might not know what autism is, it is a development disorder that tends to show up in more boys than girls and is marked by social and language delays. This is my layman's way of explanation and there are many, many sites that can explain better. I'd suggest starting at Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Autism. However, Gabe's autism is considered high-functioning and while he has marked differences, in many respects he is like any other kid out there. He wants to have a loving environment, make friends, do good with his schoolwork, and have fun. We're doing pretty good on the first one, working on the second one, making big changes on the third, and on the fourth -- I'm a big believer in trying to make life fun.

Gabe started out at our local public school, but it became fast apparent this year that public school was no longer going to work for him. I'm not sure what the expectations are in the 'upper' grades, but he still needed support and I still needed to know what was happening during the day. Plus, this year, the kids were a bit harsher than they were last year. Patience was not there like we knew, and sadly, he was falling behind more on his comprehension skills.

Now, before we go more into schooling, I think it is time to introduce myself. My name is Heidi. I work for a Fortune 50 company as a computer programmer. I recently earned an Associate's Degree in IT - Programming, Cum Laude, but basically, I self-taught myself Java, C#, VB, scripts, Linux, Windows, and you name it. I'm a go-to person at work in that they can give me anything, and I will find a way to make it work. I've been in IT off and on most of my life. I'm a geek. That's about it.

Years ago, when Gabe was but a dream with a hand upon my abdomen, I dreamed of schooling him at home and a garden and all those really kitschy and princess-oriented dreams. These did not come to be. For reasons I won't get into, I divorced my husband and father to Gabe. At that time, we were also being told he was possibly autistic or had Asperger's. Regardless, we never heard from my ex again and that was about 6 years ago. I gave up on the little garden, the little home classroom, and buckled myself down for a single parent's life.

Then, I moved and became a programmer, setting up a nice lifestyle for us, and Grandma (Nana) moved in with us. When we started to see the issues of third-grade life manifesting in Gabe, and a decision was discussed again. I spoke how I was hoping to be able to work-from-home as a programmer by the time he was in middle school because my heart just felt like he would not be able to handle those social intricacies by then. Nana said we should start now.

A frantic week spent by the light of the laptop and the glow of Google's homepage resulted in finding out about any homeschooling support groups, how to home school, legal considerations, what it took to be compliant and all the other things I will discuss over the course of this blog. Anyways, I didn't sleep much and had to be careful how I explained what the routine change would be like to Gabe. It was huge! With Nana, we were going to do this!

Another week or so spent trying to decide on curriculums and finally settling on Verticy Learning. We felt this would address Gabe's needs best, and I will explain more about it as we go through it ourselves.

Now, Gabe has been officially withdrawn from school as of tomorrow. His last day at public. Our form is in the mail, certified with return receipt. We have a list of e-groups we have joined and a calendar packed with Home School Days for various museums and parks.

We are ready. We are excited. Our journey begins.